Family and Friends

Family and Friends

Family_Couple-Walking-FieldAt Hope for One, we know that the effects of pornography and sexual addiction are not limited to the individual who is struggling.  In fact, many times the impact of this issue can be more damaging to loved ones than to the individual themselves.   We understand the pain, frustration, and hopelessness you may be feeling, and we are dedicated to supporting you along your journey.

First, it’s important to know that you are not alone. With over 40 million Americans struggling with pornography alone, even Oprah has called this America’s #1 addiction.  Unfortunately, it’s also a topic people try to avoid because of its sensitive nature.  There are millions of other family members and friends who are going through situations similar to yours.  Although this initial website is focused on the individuals who are struggling with these issues directly, we hope to launch a second community in the near future that is focused on family and friends.   Please send us your thoughts and suggestions for  a community related to this area through our Contact Us page.

Second, you can play a critical role in helping the individual you know that is struggling. Overcoming a struggle with pornography or sexual addiction is very difficult for someone to accomplish completely on his or her own.  Struggling individuals need others around them who can provide encouragement and accountability.   To begin, our Resources section is full of valuable information and resources you can share with the individual.  Sometimes it is difficult to know where to begin, which is why we have developed these lists of resources which we feel will be helpful to you.

We also highly recommend that you encourage the individual who is struggling to start participating in our online community. We specifically created Hope for One to provide a safe, online environment for individuals struggling with issues they typically would not feel comfortable sharing with others.   Our community is an excellent way for the person you know to learn from others in similar situations.  If the individual has previously resisted seeking help because they are too embarrassed or do not believe they have a problem, you can ask them to consider participating in the online community as a way to honor your concerns.  Often times, once the individual takes this first step, they become more comfortable with admitting they have an issue and are more open to receiving help.

We also offer a unique accountability service that works with Internet accountability software.  We realize that it may be extremely difficult for the person you know to let someone else close to them see the detailed list of inappropriate websites they have visited.  Our Accountable subscription program allows the individual to have that list sent to Hope for One instead, where we will confidentially review their progress and send them regular emails to encourage them, as well as hold them accountable.  For more information on how simple it is to sign up for this service, click here.

Finally, recognize that you need support and encouragement through this process too. We understand how difficult it is to bear this burden on your own.  Our Resources section has some excellent links to support groups, counselors, books, and websites for individuals just like you.  We also hope to launch a similar online community in the near future that will be specifically focused on family and friends.