You are Not Alone

You Are Not Alone

In the US alone, well over 40 million people struggle with porn or other forms of sex addiction.

Even Oprah refers to it as America’s #1 addiction.

Not-Alone_Man-on-BeachOne of the main reasons we created Hope for One was to help you realize that you are not alone in your struggles.  Porn and other types of sex addiction are the most prevalent issues not only in the United States, but throughout most of the world.  Unfortunately, it’s also a topic that not many people like to openly discuss.

To begin, let’s discuss what it means to struggle with an addiction to porn or another sexual behavior.  There are a variety of definitions you can find on this topic, and we encourage you to meet with a professional counselor or psychiatrist to specifically evaluate your situation.


At Hope for One, we view an addiction as a destructive behavior that interferes with your ability to live a healthy, purposeful and responsible lifestyle.  An addiction may also affect your ability to maintain meaningful relationships with others.

Therefore, a sex addiction means that your attraction to something sexual or erotic in nature is interfering with your ability to live a healthy, responsible and purposeful life.  There are varying ways an addiction can manifest itself in your life. Some individuals may physically act out sexually, while others may be consumed by sexual fantasies or viewing porn privately.   Regardless of the nature of your sex addiction or how it manifests, the key point is that you recognize the control and effect it has on your life.

It is also critical that you realize you’re not the only one struggling with porn or sex addiction. Here is a quick summary of the prevalence of the issue:

  • Over 40 million people in the US view porn on a regular basis.  Each year, over 100 million people in the US view porn, either intentionally or accidentally.
  • Of the people that visit porn websites, about 70% are men and 30% are women.
  • Porn is an over $10 billion industry in the United States.  That is more than the revenues of ABC, NBC, and CBS combined.
  • 12% of all websites on the Internet are pornographic.
  • In a survey conducted by Focus on the Family, about 47% of Christians admitted pornography is a problem .  In a different survey, over 50% of pastors admitted they had viewed porn in the last year.


Just like many other issues our society struggles with, porn and sex addiction affects all of us.
It’s not just a problem men struggle with, and it’s definitely not something that one  is “too good of a person” to be tempted by.  In fact, in any given week, the news is broadcasting another story of a successful individual in the government, corporate world, or entertainment industry whose life has fallen apart due to porn or sex addiction.


We understand that struggling in this area can be extremely shameful.
One of the reasons that porn and sex addiction is so prevalent is because we hide our struggles rather than seeking help.  There is clearly a unique social stigma associated with people that struggle with this addiction.  It can be scary to consider how it could impact your relationship with the people closest to you, such as a spouse, best friend, or co-workers.  However, the most important thing to realize is that if you don’t seek help now, it is likely that you will only fall deeper into your struggle.  You may only be looking at porn right now, but just like any type of addiction, you’ll find that you need something “stronger” to satisfy you as time goes on.  This can eventually lead to acting out sexually with others, which can lead to even greater consequences for yourself and those you care for.

It’s time to take action, and we want to help you find the hope you’ve been looking for.  Regardless of where you are in your struggle with porn or other sx addictions, our community is here to help.

  • Take the first step with people like you in our online community. You’ll find other people that are dealing with porn and sex addiction, as well as those that have been successful in their recovery and want to help you.  You’ll also find existing organizations and professionals to interact with online.  Ultimately, we hope you’ll find a community that is available to support you whenever you need it.
  • Start to better understand your struggle by reviewing our Resources section. We’ve highlighted a variety of resources to help you better understand the issue of porn and sex addiction.  Whether you are looking for help or want to help someone you know, this is a great place to learn more.
  • Enter into an accountability relationship. Despite your best efforts, it’s highly unlikely that you’ll be able to overcome porn or sex addiction on your own.  Check out our Accountability page to learn more about ways you can find someone to hold you accountable to your actions in an encouraging way.
  • Seek professional help. It may take time before you’re ready to talk with someone in person.  However, we highly recommend seeking support from a professional for your struggle with porn or sex addiction.  Our Resources section has an excellent list of websites you can use to find counselors or support groups in your area.